TEN TIPS TO SURVIVE THE HOLIDAY SEASON

The holiday season is often painted as a time of joy, family, and celebration; but for those navigating infertility or grieving a loss, it can also bring waves of pain, longing, and isolation. While others may be eagerly sharing family photos or new baby announcements, you might find yourself struggling to simply get through the day. And that’s okay. This season, it’s important to approach the holidays with gentleness and compassion for yourself. Here are ten ways to prepare for the holiday season that honor your emotions, protect your peace, and remind you that you are not alone in this journey.

1. GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION TO FEEL

You don’t have to be cheerful all the time. Grief, anger, jealousy, or sadness are completely valid, especially during a season that often emphasizes family and children.

2. LIMIT SOCIAL MEDIA

Photos of pregnancy announcements or family gatherings can sting. Consider muting certain accounts or taking a break from apps during the holidays. Don’t ever forget that someone's social media account is their highlight reel and can’t compare to your real life.

3. REDEFINE OR TAKE A BREAK FROM TRADITIONS

If certain traditions are painful, create new ones. Maybe that’s traveling somewhere new, volunteering, or hosting a cozy night for two.

4. PLAN AHEAD

Think about which events might be difficult (e.g., family gatherings with kids, baby announcements) and decide in advance what you're comfortable attending or skipping.

5. SET BOUNDARIES

It’s okay to say no. You can politely decline invitations or leave early if things feel overwhelming. Protect your mental health first.

6. PREPARE RESPONSES FOR TRIGGERING QUESTIONS

Before going to an event, create a script for yourself or with your partner for how you are going to answer if someone asks whether or not you have any children.

7. ASK FOR SUPPORT

If you're going to an event, identify a safe person to support you. You can also elicit the support of your friends and family, communicating that this is a tough season and you need their support.

8. SCHEDULE SELF-CARE

Balance social activities with rest. Plan quiet, nurturing moments, a walk, a bath, a favorite movie, or journaling. The holiday season can feel like a marathon. Make sure you are well taken care of.

9. HONOR YOUR STORY

Take time in the merriment of the season to honor your story. Light a candle. Tell someone about your loss(es). Pause to honor your emotions. It can be healing to give your emotions space.

10. PRIORITIZE YOUR MENTAL HEALTH

Stay connected to your support community, join our infertility support group, and schedule a session with a therapist. Remember that after infertility and loss, ideally, it is pregnancy, postpartum, and parenthood. Now is the time to prioritize your mental health.

You don’t have to navigate this season on your own. At She Blooms, we understand the unique challenges that come with infertility and loss, especially during the holidays. Our community offers a compassionate space to share, heal, and find hope with others who truly understand. Whether you’re seeking a support group, one-on-one counseling, or simply a listening ear, we’re here to walk alongside you. Reach out to She Blooms to connect with support and resources that can help you care for your heart during this tender time.